Dilemma ...

[Ozey74]

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When I first started dating the woman I'm with, I told her very clearly and in no uncertain terms:

"There are 168 hours every week. For five months, from September to January, all I ask from you is that you do NOT, under ANY circumstances, make any plans on my behalf for five hours on Sunday (1 pregame, 1 postgame). All I ask is that you give me my five hours every Sunday, sometimes Monday. And all will be well between us."

She undestands my passion for the Steelers. I laid out my ground rules from the start and haven't had any trouble with her over it. She's a 49ers fan, but she fully supports my Steelers passion and often makes delicious game time snacks for me and anybody else who might be joining me for the game.

Your spot on!!! When I first started dating my wife, her mom invited the entire family over for a cook out on a Sunday afternoon in September (during a Steeler game). She saw me the day before the event and told me that she is looking foward to seeing me the next day. I told her that I wouldn't be there and gave her my reason why. She looked at me like I had just cheated on her daughter. Since then, my wife and in-laws have grown to understand that I am not to be bothered during a Steeler game unless it's an emergency. They know that I love them all and will be apart of whatever they do, just not during Steeler games.

You have make it known from the start how it's gonna be during games. If you don't, your gonna be sorry.

My brother in-law (who is married to my wife's sister) didn't do this. Let me tell you how he spent his Sunday afternoons during week 1 thru 12 of this football season: Taking a Dave Ramsey "Financial Peace" from 1 to 3pm at their church.

He hated it.


If anybody who is reading this is still single, please remember what you have just read when they day comes when meet that "special someone".

[sd steel]

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I can't believe no one else remembers that m*a*s*h episode.

I remembered it, and it was funny. But if hopefully SA communicates with his wife so she knows that the Steelers are an important part of his life, as opposed to injuring himself so he doesn't have to leave his home.

I've been married for 13 years and together with wife for about 18, and we are happy as ever, but it is all about communication. I agree with the give and take thing, but I think he should make the Steelers a "family thing" and not a "me thing". It gives us something to root for together, and unlike many other NFL teams, the Steelers organization is a great example of hard work and perserverance. What better could you ask for?

I don't recommend getting liquered up in front of the fam and throwing stuff at the TV if there is a turn over, or if the opponent scores, but it is a great family entertainment if everyone is rooting for the Steelers IMO.

[AngryAsian]

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Your dilemma is you don't have no authority over this woman. Grow a set and put her in her place. Be a man and quit ruining it for the rest of us.

This post is absolutely hilarious. Read it to the little woman aloud and needless to say all I heard afterwards were the chirping of crickets.

[bostonsteeler]

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Don't know how it works -- my wife somehow grew to understand over the years that I'm gone game time. She doesn't know a football from a helmet, but lately she's begun to watch the games with me and can even name half the starters on O and D!!

She thinks the business of taking a knee in the final minute is cheating. She thinks they should be out throwing and running and giving the other team a real chance. She's chewed my ear off over this in the past couple of games..

[Djfan]

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I told the wife she had to be a Steelers fan to marry me. She chose me and them. She's great at both!

[buckeyehoppy]

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Don't know how it works -- my wife somehow grew to understand over the years that I'm gone game time. She doesn't know a football from a helmet, but lately she's begun to watch the games with me and can even name half the starters on O and D!!

She thinks the business of taking a knee in the final minute is cheating. She thinks they should be out throwing and running and giving the other team a real chance. She's chewed my ear off over this in the past couple of games..

Dayum! Yer wife is hard core with the victory formation. I think it would be interesting if the offense couldn't just take a knee and had to put the ball in play. I think she understands the game just fine if that's the case.

My Ol' Lady grew up in Bills country and did 12 years in Cincitucky. She knew I was a Steelers fan when we met and she has become a fan as well.

Steelers games are sacrosanct on the schedule. Nothing else will be in conflict with a Steelers game.

[SanAntonioSteelerFan]

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OK, thanks for all the suggestions...

Here's how it has played out so far. I told her there were two things I wanted to do ... to make her happy and if that means going to the church party I would do that ... and the second thing was to see the Superbowl in a place I won't have to worry if I yell or curse or anything like that.

She said, "Do what you want to do", I said "You mean it really doesn't matter to you?", She said "Yeah". But, she wasn't smiling when she said it ...

I think I am in deep dimshee here. But as I see it, doing the church party isn't really going to help me much.

So I'm thinking no church Superbowl party ... just watch with my Dad at home (where I can drink Iron City), or if he wants to go to a Steelers bar do that instead (but no Iron City, that would be a drag).

I got a lot of work to do around here, it seems ....

[I was going to tell her I just found out that Limas Sweed was from her very small hometown of Brenham, TX, but I think at this moment that maybe is a fact that she might not find as awesome as I do ...]

[buckeyehoppy]

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OK, thanks for all the suggestions...

Here's how it has played out so far. I told her there were two things I wanted to do ... to make her happy and if that means going to the church party I would do that ... and the second thing was to see the Superbowl in a place I won't have to worry if I yell or curse or anything like that.

She said, "Do what you want to do", I said "You mean it really doesn't matter to you?", She said "Yeah". But, she wasn't smiling when she said it ...

I think I am in deep dimshee here. But as I see it, doing the church party isn't really going to help me much.

So I'm thinking no church Superbowl party ... just watch with my Dad at home (where I can drink Iron City), or if he wants to go to a Steelers bar do that instead (but no Iron City, that would be a drag).

I got a lot of work to do around here, it seems ....

[I was going to tell her I just found out that Limas Sweed was from her very small hometown of Brenham, TX, but I think at this moment that maybe is a fact that she might not find as awesome as I do ...)

FWIW, SASF, I think staying home and watching the Game with dad and the IC is the ticket. Soft pedaling the wife would involve this scenario.

Going to the church party probably wouldn't work if you have a tendency to fly out of control on bad calls, etc., like buckeyehoppy does

Do whatever you need to do to make things right. We're with ya, brother!

[bostonsteeler]

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OK, thanks for all the suggestions...

Here's how it has played out so far. I told her there were two things I wanted to do ... to make her happy and if that means going to the church party I would do that ... and the second thing was to see the Superbowl in a place I won't have to worry if I yell or curse or anything like that.

She said, "Do what you want to do", I said "You mean it really doesn't matter to you?", She said "Yeah". But, she wasn't smiling when she said it ...

I think I am in deep dimshee here. But as I see it, doing the church party isn't really going to help me much.

So I'm thinking no church Superbowl party ... just watch with my Dad at home (where I can drink Iron City), or if he wants to go to a Steelers bar do that instead (but no Iron City, that would be a drag).

I got a lot of work to do around here, it seems ....

[I was going to tell her I just found out that Limas Sweed was from her very small hometown of Brenham, TX, but I think at this moment that maybe is a fact that she might not find as awesome as I do ...]

Watch it with dad, bro. Believe me, it's the greatest to sit around with the old man and cuss out guys. Do it at home to have max soft-pedal potential (going to a bar will put you in sooooo much worse dung..).

Somehow, church shouldn't cause so much grief, don't you think

[stlrz d]

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Don't know how it works -- my wife somehow grew to understand over the years that I'm gone game time. She doesn't know a football from a helmet, but lately she's begun to watch the games with me and can even name half the starters on O and D!!

She thinks the business of taking a knee in the final minute is cheating. She thinks they should be out throwing and running and giving the other team a real chance. She's chewed my ear off over this in the past couple of games..

Show her this.

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[RuthlessBurgher]

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Don't know how it works -- my wife somehow grew to understand over the years that I'm gone game time. She doesn't know a football from a helmet, but lately she's begun to watch the games with me and can even name half the starters on O and D!!

She thinks the business of taking a knee in the final minute is cheating. She thinks they should be out throwing and running and giving the other team a real chance. She's chewed my ear off over this in the past couple of games..

Show her this.

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Herm Edwards PLAYED TO WIN THE GAME!!!

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[Iron Shiek]

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The best part is that they are rolling credits...and the announcer is totally oblivious that a fumble even occurred until Herm was almost to the endzone...

[Lonbull]

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SanAntonio -

If you really want a suggestion here's my .02, and I'm going to put this in a language I know you'll understand.

I'm sure you remember the Giants game and you remember that Greg Warren our long-snapper was injured and it was a lack of a back-up plan to his injury that probably cost us that game. Luckily for us it didn't cost us a chance to go to the Super Bowl - but let's face it the Patriots were 11-5 and they didn't get in - so one additional loss to this one might have cost us a playoff bid.

I'm sure you were angry - and I was on a messageboard where many fans wanted an immediate firing of our special teams coach, and thought that this mistake was a sure sign that Mike Tomlin clearly wasn't ready for this job -after all how could he have let this happen?

I'll ask you all this - were any of you really satisfied with Tomlin's answers as to why such a simple amount of preparation never took place? Didn't you wonder about a lack of commitment? Looking back this game could have cost us a Super Bowl.

So let me break it down for you in how this relates to your recent decision regarding the Steelers and your family.

James Harrison = your 12 year old son. He's just doing the best he can - but somehow / someway he's to blame because his swim meet landed on your Steelers game.

Mike Tomlin = your wife. She's the one who has to explain your decision (and lack of prepartion and lack of commitment) to other family members, other people at the swim meet, and probably to your son as well. She's the one facing the fact that (from this example) when it came between your family and the Steelers - you picked a group of people who don't even know your very bad word name.

Bob Ligashesky (the guy everyone wanted to fire immediately) = You. Someone who obviously didn't put very much preparation into this event, and did practically nothing to assist in making it any better - hence responsible for blowing (what could have been) a very big game in our season.

Now I certainly understand there's going to be a large contingent on this board who will say "hey everyone knows you're a HUGE Steeler fan" - and it goes with the territory. However that kind of thinking isn't going to help this matter.

So here is my suggestion to you - first man up that you made a huge mistake. You should have gone to the swim meet. You are one of maybe 6 of your son's fans - in fact you may be his biggest - the Steelers had plenty of fans that day - who needed you more? Wouldn't you have been plenty angry if during the AFC Championship game Heinz Field was empty - that's your wife's perspective. Your son's "Heinz Field" was empty.

If you really want to fix this - You clearly need to "plug" in as they say to your family and just get on the ball (so to speak) with your scheduling. That's all that seems to be missing here. Seriously. When the schedule comes out for the Steelers simply block out the times that they will be playing including all possible Playoff games and the Super Bowl. Someone already mentioned a 5 hour window - and that's a very solid suggestion.

Then you can make sure that when it comes to the Steelers and the rest of your life you won't be surprising anyone with your decisions (ala your wife). And she can work around that schedule - If she doesn't know how many guys are on a playing field I doubt very seriously she has the schedule memorized.

Don't let anybody fool you - Being a man in this case is admiting you made a very bad judgement call and making sure that if you can't reschedule something (like a swim meet) it's family first. And you'll just have to tape / record the game - Good Dad or Good Steeler Fan it's up to you champ.

The fact that your wife is indifferent to your decision right now....is a very bad sign. VERY VERY bad sign. If you remember there were times when Coach Cowher would scream and yell at a player - that's because he felt the player had potential but just needed a kick in the butt. The guys who made mistakes and then were benched or ignored usually didn't stay on the team very long did they?

I would buy a day planner / calendar immediately and start scheduling something with your son asap. Camping, fishing something that gives you and your son a lot of quality time away from television and/or sports.

And I would suggest you include your wife on this OR if she decides to opt out buy her a day at the spa or something that she enjoys - added bonus take a camera with you on this outing of you and your son, take a ton of pictures and make an album for her. That will mean more to a woman worth being married too than jewerly.

Good luck.

L.B.

[sd steel]

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SanAntonio -

If you really want a suggestion here's my .02, and I'm going to put this in a language I know you'll understand.

I'm sure you remember the Giants game and you remember that Greg Warren our long-snapper was injured and it was a lack of a back-up plan to his injury that probably cost us that game. Luckily for us it didn't cost us a chance to go to the Super Bowl - but let's face it the Patriots were 11-5 and they didn't get in - so one additional loss to this one might have cost us a playoff bid.

I'm sure you were angry - and I was on a messageboard where many fans wanted an immediate firing of our special teams coach, and thought that this mistake was a sure sign that Mike Tomlin clearly wasn't ready for this job -after all how could he have let this happen?

I'll ask you all this - were any of you really satisfied with Tomlin's answers as to why such a simple amount of preparation never took place? Didn't you wonder about a lack of commitment? Looking back this game could have cost us a Super Bowl.

So let me break it down for you in how this relates to your recent decision regarding the Steelers and your family.

James Harrison = your 12 year old son. He's just doing the best he can - but somehow / someway he's to blame because his swim meet landed on your Steelers game.

Mike Tomlin = your wife. She's the one who has to explain your decision (and lack of prepartion and lack of commitment) to other family members, other people at the swim meet, and probably to your son as well. She's the one facing the fact that (from this example) when it came between your family and the Steelers - you picked a group of people who don't even know your very bad word name.

Bob Ligashesky (the guy everyone wanted to fire immediately) = You. Someone who obviously didn't put very much preparation into this event, and did practically nothing to assist in making it any better - hence responsible for blowing (what could have been) a very big game in our season.

Now I certainly understand there's going to be a large contingent on this board who will say "hey everyone knows you're a HUGE Steeler fan" - and it goes with the territory. However that kind of thinking isn't going to help this matter.

So here is my suggestion to you - first man up that you made a huge mistake. You should have gone to the swim meet. You are one of maybe 6 of your son's fans - in fact you may be his biggest - the Steelers had plenty of fans that day - who needed you more? Wouldn't you have been plenty angry if during the AFC Championship game Heinz Field was empty - that's your wife's perspective. Your son's "Heinz Field" was empty.

If you really want to fix this - You clearly need to "plug" in as they say to your family and just get on the ball (so to speak) with your scheduling. That's all that seems to be missing here. Seriously. When the schedule comes out for the Steelers simply block out the times that they will be playing including all possible Playoff games and the Super Bowl. Someone already mentioned a 5 hour window - and that's a very solid suggestion.

Then you can make sure that when it comes to the Steelers and the rest of your life you won't be surprising anyone with your decisions (ala your wife). And she can work around that schedule - If she doesn't know how many guys are on a playing field I doubt very seriously she has the schedule memorized.

Don't let anybody fool you - Being a man in this case is admiting you made a very bad judgement call and making sure that if you can't reschedule something (like a swim meet) it's family first. And you'll just have to tape / record the game - Good Dad or Good Steeler Fan it's up to you champ.

The fact that your wife is indifferent to your decision right now....is a very bad sign. VERY VERY bad sign. If you remember there were times when Coach Cowher would scream and yell at a player - that's because he felt the player had potential but just needed a kick in the butt. The guys who made mistakes and then were benched or ignored usually didn't stay on the team very long did they?

I would buy a day planner / calendar immediately and start scheduling something with your son asap. Camping, fishing something that gives you and your son a lot of quality time away from television and/or sports.

And I would suggest you include your wife on this OR if she decides to opt out buy her a day at the spa or something that she enjoys - added bonus take a camera with you on this outing of you and your son, take a ton of pictures and make an album for her. That will mean more to a woman worth being married too than jewerly.

Good luck.

L.B.

Do you carry your keyboard with you in your purse, Nancy?

[RuthlessBurgher]

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SanAntonio -

If you really want a suggestion here's my .02, and I'm going to put this in a language I know you'll understand.

I'm sure you remember the Giants game and you remember that Greg Warren our long-snapper was injured and it was a lack of a back-up plan to his injury that probably cost us that game. Luckily for us it didn't cost us a chance to go to the Super Bowl - but let's face it the Patriots were 11-5 and they didn't get in - so one additional loss to this one might have cost us a playoff bid.

I'm sure you were angry - and I was on a messageboard where many fans wanted an immediate firing of our special teams coach, and thought that this mistake was a sure sign that Mike Tomlin clearly wasn't ready for this job -after all how could he have let this happen?

I'll ask you all this - were any of you really satisfied with Tomlin's answers as to why such a simple amount of preparation never took place? Didn't you wonder about a lack of commitment? Looking back this game could have cost us a Super Bowl.

So let me break it down for you in how this relates to your recent decision regarding the Steelers and your family.

James Harrison = your 12 year old son. He's just doing the best he can - but somehow / someway he's to blame because his swim meet landed on your Steelers game.

Mike Tomlin = your wife. She's the one who has to explain your decision (and lack of prepartion and lack of commitment) to other family members, other people at the swim meet, and probably to your son as well. She's the one facing the fact that (from this example) when it came between your family and the Steelers - you picked a group of people who don't even know your very bad word name.

Bob Ligashesky (the guy everyone wanted to fire immediately) = You. Someone who obviously didn't put very much preparation into this event, and did practically nothing to assist in making it any better - hence responsible for blowing (what could have been) a very big game in our season.

Now I certainly understand there's going to be a large contingent on this board who will say "hey everyone knows you're a HUGE Steeler fan" - and it goes with the territory. However that kind of thinking isn't going to help this matter.

So here is my suggestion to you - first man up that you made a huge mistake. You should have gone to the swim meet. You are one of maybe 6 of your son's fans - in fact you may be his biggest - the Steelers had plenty of fans that day - who needed you more? Wouldn't you have been plenty angry if during the AFC Championship game Heinz Field was empty - that's your wife's perspective. Your son's "Heinz Field" was empty.

If you really want to fix this - You clearly need to "plug" in as they say to your family and just get on the ball (so to speak) with your scheduling. That's all that seems to be missing here. Seriously. When the schedule comes out for the Steelers simply block out the times that they will be playing including all possible Playoff games and the Super Bowl. Someone already mentioned a 5 hour window - and that's a very solid suggestion.

Then you can make sure that when it comes to the Steelers and the rest of your life you won't be surprising anyone with your decisions (ala your wife). And she can work around that schedule - If she doesn't know how many guys are on a playing field I doubt very seriously she has the schedule memorized.

Don't let anybody fool you - Being a man in this case is admiting you made a very bad judgement call and making sure that if you can't reschedule something (like a swim meet) it's family first. And you'll just have to tape / record the game - Good Dad or Good Steeler Fan it's up to you champ.

The fact that your wife is indifferent to your decision right now....is a very bad sign. VERY VERY bad sign. If you remember there were times when Coach Cowher would scream and yell at a player - that's because he felt the player had potential but just needed a kick in the butt. The guys who made mistakes and then were benched or ignored usually didn't stay on the team very long did they?

I would buy a day planner / calendar immediately and start scheduling something with your son asap. Camping, fishing something that gives you and your son a lot of quality time away from television and/or sports.

And I would suggest you include your wife on this OR if she decides to opt out buy her a day at the spa or something that she enjoys - added bonus take a camera with you on this outing of you and your son, take a ton of pictures and make an album for her. That will mean more to a woman worth being married too than jewerly.

Good luck.

L.B.

LONBULL MADE IT OVER!!!

And with an epic length family-man first post to boot.

Welcome, newbie!