Dilemma ...

[SanAntonioSteelerFan]

First off, I'm in the doghouse because I didn't go to my son's swim meet finals last week so I could watch the Baltimore game. My wife is p.o.'d at me big time.... "You chose a football game, 12 people you don't even know, over your SON!!". Uggh. (She's from A&M, that 12th man thing made an impression on her).

Now, this guy from my church is having a Superbowl party. Like I said on other threads, like most of you I get pretty intense during games, I sure don't want to be distracted by conversation like "Gee, who do you think is going to win this one?", and stuff. Also, I just ordered 2 6-packs of Iron City, don't know how well that will go over at a church function either.

But if I tell my wife I'm gonna watch at home, or at a Steeler bar, I'm SO hosed.

What to do, what to do ... help!!

[frankthetank1]

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is he a friend or just some guy from church? if its just some guy then there shouldnt be any problem with watching it at home. haha you missed your sons swim meet, that is some dedication!! i dont think i could miss anything like that with my daughter but i do have the luxury of dvr so i never have to make those decisions.

[proudpittsburgher]

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You have to sit her down and talk with her about this. It took my wife quite a few years to understand my love and loyalty to the Steelers. She wasn't much into sports and not from Pittsburgh, so she didn't get it, but she eventually did. Her family, still isn't there, but she's got my back. Also, try and figure out something that she can relate to and feels pasionate about. Tell her stories of your experiences with the Steelers, fans. My advice, make a compromise. Do some things during the week for her and your son. Basically, do what I did. Tell her you love her and your family, show her you are always willing and able to put the time in, but this is the Super Bowl and it means a lot to you. She will come around.

[MeetJoeGreene]

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I always tell my wife that I don't like going to parties where there are fans of the other team or anti-Steeler. She still doesn't get it, but I have established the precedent. I sometimes make a deal with going to a party that I don't want to in going to see the first half at the one place and then the second half at home/bar/my party.

Compromise.

[flippy]

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Do something nice for her outside of the 3 hours a week football is on.

[phillyesq]

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Remember, it is easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. I'd skip out and watch the game at home.

I also like the suggestion of doing something nice for her outside of football. Send some flowers, do something with your son, and you should be good to go.

[Djfan]

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Sounds like you waited a bit long to establish the rules. Tough.

Good luck. We're all pulling for you!

[Ozey74]

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Stay in. 25 years from now she wont even remember, but you sure will remember how you had to watch the Steelers in the SB at some lame Super Bowl party.


And do something nice!

[Steelgal]

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Maybe just tell her that you can pretty intense during any Steelers game, let alone the Superbowl. And does she really want you to take a chance of behaving that way in front of church members? Tell her that even if you try to act like a 'normal' fan, it just might be work. Dh knows how I can get and would NEVER want me around a bunch of people during this game

[stlrz d]

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I remember a m*a*s*h episode involving Colonel Flagg wanting to stay in camp to "observe" but he was told he couldn't because there was no medical reason for him to be there.

He used the x-ray machine to break his own arm.

Worked...you could try it. :P

[sd steel]

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Why is your kid at a swim meet instead of watching the Steeler AFC Championship with you?

Every Sunday, September - January, me and the boy bond, watching our favorite team together. We have planned every weekend around it since he was 5 years old in 2004. He will not miss a game, and I have had a great time teaching him about the history of the franchise and all the great players of the past. If he is playing a sport during that time, we don't sign up if it not on Saturday's, or if it will interfere with our Steeler schedule.

One of the only games I missed with him was the November game last year against the Browns, his birthday weekend, when I went to Heinz to watch the game with my brother. I took my son to Disneyland the Saturday before I left, and his only stipulation was to bring back some autographs. I happened to meet up with Matt Spaeth at some sports bar on the strip after the game, and he signed it, then we found our way into Willie Parker's birthday party at Tequila Willys, and met up with Najeh "Dukie" Davenport, who signed and then big Chris Kemo who also signed it. To end the night we saw Big Ben in a parking lot around 1:30AM who put the final touches on my son's birthday present. Then I got him a throw back Lambert jersey for his Steeler wall of fame. Was he still alittle upset that I missed his birthday? yes, but sometimes you have to make sacrifices, and he cherishes everything I brought back, and he can't wait for me to take him there.

As far as the wife, she knows my passion for the Steelers, and that passion has made her a huge fan as well. So she is normally with us watching the games, especially the important ones. Steeler football is our church, and she knows there is no way in hell we are watching the Super Bowl with non-Steeler fans, because it's family time.

[eniparadoxgma]

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Do whatever the hell you want to. It's how I do things.

Of course, I am divorced. Happily.

[Acero]

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When I first started dating the woman I'm with, I told her very clearly and in no uncertain terms:

"There are 168 hours every week. For five months, from September to January, all I ask from you is that you do NOT, under ANY circumstances, make any plans on my behalf for five hours on Sunday (1 pregame, 1 postgame). All I ask is that you give me my five hours every Sunday, sometimes Monday. And all will be well between us."

She undestands my passion for the Steelers. I laid out my ground rules from the start and haven't had any trouble with her over it. She's a 49ers fan, but she fully supports my Steelers passion and often makes delicious game time snacks for me and anybody else who might be joining me for the game.

[SidSmythe]

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Your dilemma is you don't have no authority over this woman. Grow a set and put her in her place. Be a man and quit ruining it for the rest of us.

[stlrz d]

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I can't believe no one else remembers that m*a*s*h episode.