Flippy, you have hit the nail on the head on this issue as far as I am concerned. Every state in the country recognizes as legally binding marriages which are conducted as religious services and yet certain pairs of individuals are not permitted to stand before the god they worship and enter into a legally binding union/marriage with the person they love.

Whatever the definition of marriage has been over the years, we recognize that marriage is an element of religious life and we can't really say that we have religious freedom/religious equality if we deny it to some but allow it for others.

Just my 2 cents.