Ben's always said the perfect thing since he was drafted. And guys have always said he wasn't the best teammate or leader. So I wouldn't be surprised if Ben has good intentions, is trying to be a leader in his own way, and is trying to rationalize some of the stuff as not a big deal.
And from Ben's perspective, it's probably not a big deal. And this is probably why guys don't perceive him to be a leader because I doubt the other guys are making stuff up. And Ben comes off as set apart from the others guys on the team a bit.
I don't think anyone means any ill will here. Everyone perceives things the way they perceive them. There's the Ben way and then the everybody else way.