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SteelCrazy
06-16-2010, 08:21 AM
Our Anonymous Athlete is an NFL veteran who has played on a handful of teams in both conferences. He'll periodically share pro football's deepest secrets with the Daily News.

Ben Roethlisberger and Tiger Woods.

By now, you're familiar with those two guys and how they got in trouble with their women and groupies. That's what you hear most of the time, how athletes and their side women are a recipe for disaster.

But here's the part you don't know. Most NFL guys have women and groupies. We just don't get caught, because we treat our extra women with a certain amount of compassion and humility.

Why? Because we have agendas in these relationships and so do the women. It's not that we don't love our wives or our families; we just like being with multiple women. Temptation, testosterone, confidence - I think all those things factor in.

In general, players want a great night, or a booty call, or just a chick on the side, and as long as we don't treat these women like second-rate citizens, it usually works out fine.

But it's a use-use situation where both parties understand that sex is the top priority. Women want something, too. The girls come from all over the place; we meet them at basketball games, bars, nightclubs, places like that. Most of them would love to stick around and be a girlfriend, but their night lives and their pasts - they've usually been with other athletes - keep us from doing that. So they settle for being one-night stands and booty calls.

But in the court of public opinion, they know they'll always have the upper hand. If the player is accused of rape, the player - whether guilty or innocent - has to deal with the repercussions.

That's why if a woman is "there" for a player late nights, and she keeps what's going on in the conversations and the relationship private, she should be rewarded. I'm not saying you take them to a steak dinner on a Saturday night, but little gifts here and there show appreciation. Think watches and dresses, maybe some cash.

Not to bring up old stuff, but this is one of the things that tripped up Tiger: His inability to give his women money or financial support in some small way. I don't think those women wanted a new car or their house paid off, but if you're having sex with a waitress, give her a grand every few weeks. Don't do that, and she'll say he's heartless and be much more inclined to divulge all the dirty details of their relationship. Especially because he told his girls he loved them.

That's not to say that there aren't other problems in these "relationships." Single players have it easier than married ones. The biggest issue single players run into is that they can't get possessive if their girl wants to be with other teammates, unless you notify the teammate privately that she's one of your "main chicks."

Even then, other issues crop up, because of the infamous double standard players have, that we can have multiple partners but the women cannot. It's supposed to be on the woman to decide if she's going to deal with one player or a few, and we've got to be fine with that, or else be labeled "Captain Save-a-Ho" in the locker room.

But where it's real tricky is for the married ballers, who need to have the mentality "I will get caught." With that in mind, you have to ask yourself, "Is my woman strong enough to stay with me in the aftermath?" Or "smart enough to look past it and not hold it against me?" Because if she's neither of those things, we're in trouble.

Outsiders may say "What about a pre-nup," but most of us get married young, when we convince ourselves that we are in love and cheating would never happen, before the money, the power, the respect and - most of all - the temptation comes along. So now, if something happens, we're in deep trouble.

But that's why our approach is so important. The bottom line is if things go wrong it's our fault. Maybe we shouldn't have done it in the first place.

Or maybe we should have taken care of our girls a bit better, because that accomplishes much more than being a jerk.


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Djfan
06-16-2010, 09:35 AM
Another anonymous person. Kind of like Ben's DTF chick.

I have no respect for this. Some guy who is taking a small percentage of the players and trying to make it the way everyone works? Maybe. A nobody who wants to think that he is somebody by be "the expert"? Probably.

Next.

SteelCrazy
06-16-2010, 09:36 AM
DJ, listen up! :lol: :lol: :lol:

feltdizz
06-16-2010, 09:43 AM
Another anonymous person. Kind of like Ben's DTF chick.

I have no respect for this. Some guy who is taking a small percentage of the players and trying to make it the way everyone works? Maybe. A nobody who wants to think that he is somebody by be "the expert"? Probably.

Next.

definitely not an expert... but it's a great window into the mind of an NFL athlete.. if he really is one. It's not the way EVERYONE works... he is just talking about the reality of some athletes sex lives.

If this is the same guy who kept repeating "someone is going to get Hines Ward" how can you not like him. He sounds like a guy who plays D and got rocked by Hines. He sounded convincing to me.

Nothing to extreme just the obvious with this story... "athletes cheat"

the sky is blue too

cruzer8
06-16-2010, 10:22 AM
This is an ongoing series with a different anonymous NFL player every time.

D Rock
06-16-2010, 05:00 PM
sounds like a guy full of self-entitlement and a real d1ckwad to me.


Do athletes really think their wives need to be 'strong' and 'smart' enough to stay with them through cheating?

What a clown.

stlrz d
06-17-2010, 12:09 AM
There is a reason why the NFL put the heat on ESPN to cancel this program.

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/I/51MNRRRC34L._SS500_.jpg

It doesn't require a lot of deep thought to conclude what that reason was.

SteelCrazy
06-17-2010, 12:14 AM
There is a reason why the NFL put the heat on ESPN to cancel this program.

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/I/51MNRRRC34L._SS500_.jpg

It doesn't require a lot of deep thought to conclude what that reason was.

I loved that show

NJ-STEELER
06-17-2010, 01:51 AM
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Djfan
06-17-2010, 02:09 AM
OK, I have never posted this because it sounds like bragging, but here goes.

I was very good friends with a Charger DB in the 80's & 90's. I'm talking over at each other's houses weekly, doing projects together, etc. I moved on in my career a different way than he did, but we kept in touch for along time.

I knew he had other girl friends before he was married, but once he committed to marrying her, he cut all the others off. He told me that many guys did that, too.

Not everyone did it, just as not every guy had groupies in bed every road trip. There's good guys and bad guys in every group. It's not honest to say "every NFL player..." or "every church goer.." or "every Steelers fan..."

Some? Probably. Ben? We don't know.

Not enough for me to buy into. If I did, I would be killing a man's character. I don't have that permission.

flippy
06-17-2010, 07:58 AM
1. Ben's not married.

and

2. If you want a goomba, treat her like Tony Soprano would. You don't need to be extra nice for it to work.

Captain Lemming
06-17-2010, 09:22 AM
There is a reason why the NFL put the heat on ESPN to cancel this program.

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/I/51MNRRRC34L._SS500_.jpg

It doesn't require a lot of deep thought to conclude what that reason was.

I loved that show

Oh please..... thought it was about football, its a "Days of our lives" soap opera for dudes. :lol:

Djfan
06-17-2010, 11:12 AM
I hear you flippy. My point is that the members of the NFLPA are individuals, not a block of totally like minded guys who have to all do the same dumb thing. The post by the invisible man player is too broad a brush to be taken seriously.

flippy
06-17-2010, 12:26 PM
I hear you flippy. My point is that the members of the NFLPA are individuals, not a block of totally like minded guys who have to all do the same dumb thing. The post by the invisible man player is too broad a brush to be taken seriously.

Agree.

But I've played sports my whole life and as a group jocks tend to have more testosterone than the general population. That's why they have bigger muscles and more aggression and are better suited for playing sports. So that's why people might take this stuff seriously.

Now I've never played at an elite level. So I suspect some of the testosterone gets balanced out with guys who have to work really hard to play at that level. So you probably see more of the high character guys making it. So they're smart and have restraint. But I also bet those guys have more testosterone than you and me. Thus the stereotype.

Djfan
06-17-2010, 01:10 PM
Agreed flippy.

feltdizz
06-17-2010, 03:05 PM
I hear you flippy. My point is that the members of the NFLPA are individuals, not a block of totally like minded guys who have to all do the same dumb thing. The post by the invisible man player is too broad a brush to be taken seriously.

Do you really think he is talking about EVERY player in the league?

Would the story only get your approval if it had a list of players who have done this?